Parent’s struggle – The other side of the coin

Sometimes, we think how lucky our parents are. They can do anything they want without any body’s permission, spend however they want and never have to obey or request someone. But is this true?

Seeing my post about how the education pressure affects the teenagers, my uncle asked, ‘why not write a post about how it affects the parents?’ So, I really thought about it. And here it is .
The side of coin from our parent’s view.

If there is a person having more pressure than the teenager, then it is being the parent of the teenager. That is one job that is the hardest one and one doesn’t even get paid for it. Imagine a person, who was once just like us, have to guide us from right and wrong, from bad and good, shape us into good adults with morals and virtues. I mean, when we can’t even keep our pens and pencils properly, our parents have to make us into good, responsible and successful adults. It is a lot of pressure, especially in today’s world where learning bad things is just a click away.

Their each and every minute is spent for the well being for us. They devote all their thoughts for us. They really want us to be happy and it is our happiness that makes them happy. When was the last time you remember your parents doing something for themselves and not for the benefit of family?

I know. They sometimes do scold at us and shout at us. But if we think properly, the reason behind the scolding would be us. We might have really done something wrong. And if it wasn’t our fault at all, understand that they too are under pressure, just like us or even more, and we would have annoyed them at that crucial moment. But trust me, if it wasn’t our fault and we had got the scolding that day, then our parents would feel more bad than we would.


If studying is a huge pressure for us, then imagine they have to work, meet the satisfaction of their boss, guide the family, meet the family’s needs, teach their kids, see to their needs, aka demands. take care of their parents and meet their requirements, take care of family expense and education expense, pay income tax, etc, etc, etc..

If writing and reading all these takes this much time then think, how our parents manage it? We know being a teenager isn’t a piece of cake. But then, if we can’t manage ourselves, think how difficult it will be for our parents to manage us and all this stuff above? On top this, we keep complaining to them, ‘this is not done, that is not done, she/he has this, I don’t have this, I don’t want this’, etc, etc.


They have this huge responsibility of guiding us. There can be no one happier than a parent seeing their child prosper. Sometimes, we, teenager, need to put ourselves in their shoes. We want our parents to satisfy our needs but do we even think about their needs?

Education pressure has made it’s impact on parents too. They want us to succeed and in today’s world, being the good student is important. Therefore, our parents are asking us to put our best effort.


It is high time we learn that this world is not only changing for us but for them too. When they grew up, things were different and they were brought up differently. They didn’t have Internet, mobile phones(let alone smart phones), TV, cars, social media, etc. But now, in this world, with so many new innovations and inventions, our parents are also figuring their way out to bring us up with good morals and principles. If they say no to mobile phones or TV or Internet, it is not because they don’t want you to enjoy or be happy. It is because you can learn many other unnecessary, unwanted and bad things which may have serve consequences. We must always respect them and their decisions.

Remember that they too have been teenagers and they know what a teenager goes through at this age, maybe not fully but enough to have an idea. So, respect their decisions and know that anything they say is coming from experience, knowledge and wisdom.

Being a parent of a teenager is harder than being a teenager.

Nivashini Muthuvel



No one’s teenage life is a walk in the park

Well, I used to say I know my class. I still do. But did I understand them? I doubt it.

A person I knew once complemented my blog and said I believe my teenage life is special. I got frustrated (well, way more than frustrated). I wrote back(kinda of like shouting) saying how hard and tough my life is and that it doesn’t look easy to me in any angle. He wrote back,
‘I never told that your life is easy, I used the word special. No one’s teenage life is a walk in the park. Nobody says I have a peaceful life.’

I used to think I have lot of problems that can’t be shared with others and others can’t understand them too. But recently, I realized,like me, many others are there laughing with a face full of happiness yet eyes full of sadness. The thing is they had their problems and I had mine but we didn’t know each other’s. Until recently. I was overwhelmed by the way my classmates/friends shared their problems with me and I didn’t pity them at all. I have talked with my friends so many times yet I never knew their troubles and never told mine. And suddenly out of nowhere, I started sharing some of mine, more like touching the surface of mine, like seeing a reflection on the water but not into it. So did some of my classmates.

And after doing this, I felt very bad. I though they are going to pity me and I am going to do the same. And that the conversation was totally unnecessary and idiotic.

But the next day, when I talked again with them, I realized sharing our troubles and problems not only makes us feel like our burden is reduced in half though it is the same as before, it gives us a feeling that we are not alone and that someone we see everyday in class might be facing the same in their house right now.

We won’t feel afraid anymore. Or that we are the only brave and strong ones in this fight of ours. We will be a bit more cheerful with the fact that maybe this too is a phrase like our teenage-hood, childhood, etc.

Most importantly, we will realize that standing alone isn’t the solution always. Maybe standing together sometimes brings the solution.

You know they say, I would rather walk in the dark with my friend than walk in the light alone.

Nivashini Muthuvel